I have to be honest here, things at home have been taking over my ability to think fairly clearly and thus I felt it would be a disastrous event to post "my feelings" here at any time. So I haven't had much else to post recently - that and I do have another blog at Cafe Mom (www.cafemom.com) which also keeps me quite occupied. (Mommies Check out the site if you've never been there it's amazing! The women are so supportive and genuine.)
"Balance is the key", "this too shall pass" isn't that what most people say to ease your pain?... "keep your chin up" and all that other crap that is supposed to make you feel better about your turmoil? Gheesh! Patronizing and belittling your situation or what?!
It might be better if people actually said what they mean (sort of) ... Like "I really don't give a hoot-a-nanney about you at this time, even though you've always been there for me, I've got other things on my mind, and quite frankly I don't want to return the favour it's too much work being a friend.... but good luck with that eh?"
But then again...I suppose I really wouldn't want to hear the actual truth (but a portion would be nice) instead of those kinds of people who say "I'll be there for ya "man" and then when in need of support they are in a no-contact zone, and then suddenly reappear after the grey clouds subside. Hrmmmm interesting.... I mean just say what's actually going on for you, or that you're unavailable right now,.. I mean What good ever comes of leaving a person at a place of confusion and pain, with no support and having them in addition try and figure out why you're not there or calling to see how we're doing? It's crazy to me really, but then I'm not "them", I don't live my life in that way. I suppose also this is when the weeding out the Real-Friends occurs.
I for one have made a commitment to myself to be generous and available to my good close friends (who are a surrogate family to me) whenever sticky-icky-gloomy situations occur, and the happy ones too for that matter! But in the essence of being able to provide that kind of friendship I like to receive, I've had to limit my number of close relationships, as I invest so much time and effort into each one. I prefer a small, less handful of goodies to that of a room full of acquaintances, know what I mean?
Anywhoo this post is seemingly going nowhere fast, I'm starting to sound pompous instead of sincere and truthful about my disappointments... so in the spirit of being a clown and almost always being able to elicit humour from others, for others.... Please enjoy responsibly the following little joke (aimed to couples after children)
How not to rekindle the romance:
• Hum the Boohbah theme song.
• Mention glycerin suppositories.
• Say, "Does this fat make me look fat?"
• Moo when you take your bra off.
• Call your partner "Daddy" in a singsong voice.
..........And my Favourite ONE!
• Remind him of the greatest miracle of your relationship: the time he saw your vagina turn inside out.
That one had me rolling over for days! AHAHHAHAH Enjoy people, have good one.
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