...There's something about April.
I logged on today, not having posted for 3 years (about to post my own sob story) and noticed two other very lovely women posting very similar shocking (to selves, and quite possibly to their readers), some major life changes had happened; one a separation & divorce and one a deeply burdensome depression + illness + life affirmation turned positive! I found these to be not only comforting to me upon arrival to my abandoned blog, but also to my heart, during a morning upon which I found myself seeking affirmation and nurturing. It also pained me to know, so many women (many who struggle silently) are working with so much upheaval and while juggling reponsibilities, like children, working deadlines, volunteer projects or plainly managing to get their own selves out of bed each morning and still open their eyes and hearts to the world - no matter digitally or otherwise. I deeply honour and appreciate that. While I do not know these women personally, only through reading their vulnerable and humourous blogs, I feel a kinship. Through the lives of everyday women, interconnected in our struggles and our strength to keep plowing through all the endless dump trucks of garbage, seemingly served on a silver platter with our names on it. lol! But we smile and divvy up our portions and deal with it, by cleaning it up in the best way we all know how. It's a wonder more women do not just give in and give up, I applaud so many of you for this, putting on undergarments and getting out of bed is more than half the battle of an everyday morning.
but i digress... i love ya and you know i do. xxo
Today marks the day, 3 years past, when the unthinkable happened.
*my cursor stands blinking on what to say next, even though I want to claim this story and rewrite it within my own powerful place,...it still slices through my skin like a hot sword.
. . . My beautiful babies, at ages 7 & 10, were taken from me.
This was unimaginable,
to everyone who knew me, who knew us, who loved us.
I am the everything-mother,
the one who worries endlessly, if they've eaten enough, if they're warm enough in the winter and cool and hydrated enough in the summer.
I am the mother who practiced lovingly with both of them, on how to speak, to hug, to be kind, to love others, how to make friends, ride a bike, stay safe, stay clean, eat healthy.
I - Am - The - Mother, who barely slept their entire lives, so that i could check on them in the night at least 3 times, to make sure they had their blankies, toys, windows closed (or open), night lights safely off, check if they needed water or to use the washroom, or stayed up with them all night while they were fluish, stomach-bugging, coughing or just nightmaring for hours on end.
I! Am! Their! Mother! who, while their father disappeared for days, weeks and months on end during their first two years without him, and during the entirety of 2012, took a "parental sabbatical" without word or notice and left me to pick up the pieces he left trailing behind him with wondering and questioning children...
--> WHO, raised these beautiful children into the solid, mature, intelligent, community focused, creative, and kind, loving, souls they are today. No doubt! They ARE everything in a reflection of me, in all that is positive and good-natured, world curious and questioning.
To say this day was unthinkable, was to spin it with sugar and wrap it with a bow.
What followed was the ripping of my heart, through every grater imaginable within the child services system, the family court system, the school board, my neighbourhood, my friends, my social networks and even the criminal court system.
This everyday, hands-on, worry-wart, mother . . . became painted as a monster. Even worse, it was being handed down and fed, to those delicate souls I raised so painstakingly from birth, more and more each day they were not with me.
I was dragged through the policing, legal systems and bail systems, just like every other seedy legit criminal from any dark cornered alley. No matter the woman I was, the mother I am, made a difference in the eyes of the systems that we were taught as children, were there to "protect us". I learned quickly how bleak, endless and what a joke our legal system is. Where it heralds and protects REAL criminals, and blackens and tarnishes the lives of everyday citizens, caught in archaic systems set up to make examples out of good, loving people, twisted into a spiral of nonsense and wrenching hoops to jump and perform through, like dogs in obedience training classes. (although there were no "treats" to be had)
I went through what every woman, man and juvenille has had to endure by these beasts. Removal of dignity, naked explorations for drugs and weapons, digital and ink finger printing, dumped and left in cold, FILTHY cells - sometimes alone for hours without explanation, or sanitary coverage (for women also having their period during these unforgettable times), sometimes with cuffs behind my back pressed against the back seat of a car or hard steel chair or banged around chained to several other women in a court van, racing over bumps and curves like a courier driver - with no sense or care for his belonging or passengers! (some women were brutally injured - some were pregnant and slept on cold concrete, dust and excrement filled floors) Not one of the women I met in those 72 hrs and over the course of 10 months following within courtrooms and programs, warranted any of the treatment nor sentences or charges they received.
My point of view was forever altered, on the Justice system for women, prison's, who is there to honorably serve women within the policing of cities, children services and how families are ripped apart daily and lives never restored to the "calm, easy, normalcy" of everyday living.
I can tell you without a drop, we are now and always will be, constantly hyper-aware of our surroundings, whom we choose to be friendly with, what information we share and how we word and phrase things. All of which, in our case and many others, taken completely out of context and blown wildly on the other side of nonsense without logic or reason of mind.
I had actually thought we were getting on well, and things moving out of our systems - when April 2016 arrived. I did not sleep last night, I tossed and rolled, I had playback of every moment of that treacherous day and what followed, taking every breath out of me for 10 straight months, until I was officially cleared and "charges dropped" (as if nothing happened to my family, the charred parts they placed upon me and my children's tender and soft souls.) I knew, what I had personally suffered through, was not the same as what the children suffered - my son especially, and both equally scathing. My scars are deep and still bloody, they have not hardened and while some days I don't think about it that much, I can't say ANY day has passed where we have all not worried about loosing each other again and we hold each other so tightly each moment we are together (which is a lot, thank god.). My children's scars are loose, but closing slightly.
Neither of us, will ever be the same, ...ever again.
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I thought at length about not posting this, for quite some time. But this day crept up on me, I did not even mark it on the calendar in some way this time. It felt longer, like it was 5 or 8 years ago,...and yet it also feels like it happened just last night.
Trauma is deeply personal and yet widely recognized by many - especially those who have suffered in silence. This is my way of reclaiming this trauma, this is my way of loving myself and my children - whom are my absolute everything. Hiding hurts more, so does pretending.
For those who know me personally, this is but -one- in the traumas that have not so gently presented themselves to me over the course of my lifetime. Childhood was not a rosy and bright place, but I prevailed and became the "positive-pants-putter-onner" that I am despite all of that, including this.
When the unthinkable happens, it's time to write about it (or colour, or dance, or scream, or throw couch pillows, or protest or speak up!). I turned to fitness, rest and social outlets - I also cried, sobbed and researched - a lot! Everything matters - putting my feet on the ground and getting a glass of water, even if it wasn't leaving my room, was a huge progression in staying plugged in and alive to fight back and bring my children home. Not one day was easy, they still aren't but they get a tiny bit easier.
*** ---> If you are now or ever struggled with trauma, depression, mental illness or transgressions of any sort while also trying to be the best person, citizen to your community and parent or teacher to children in any way. MY LOVE GOES OUT TO YOU XXOO You ARE NOT Alone. Feel free to reach out here, or to your local community, or people you trust. While i am not a doctor, I am wonderful at listening and replying & sometimes all we need is an anonymous connection to keep us from falling down deep. I AM HERE FOR YOU. Love you! Comment as you wish. ((((big HUGS))) to all who need it today & always. xxo
Wednesday, 27 April 2016
Tuesday, 30 April 2013
Hearts and Lyrics ♥ Family Forever
For my Babies & my sunshines ♥xo♥
ox♥ooooxoooxxxooooxoxoxooo♥
I love you more than any word can say, but lyrics and melodies always keep you with me ♥
ox♥ooooxoooxxxooooxoxoxooo♥
I love you more than any word can say, but lyrics and melodies always keep you with me ♥
Saturday, 15 December 2012
What the world needs now = more Man Hugs (Newtown, Sandyhook, CT)
#Newtown #Sandyhook #gunviolence #manhugs
Once again as parents and community members we are called upon to "know they neighbour" engage in real face to face, get-to-know-you connections.
I always go back to how could we avoid these tragedies and I often am struck at how easily we miss the part we play in all the children's lives we come in contact with. How are we teaching our young? How are we nurturing them, or NOT nurturing them? Perhaps this young man experienced a multitude of daily of childhood traumas of his own, how was he counselled to heal from them? Where did this young man get passed over and how could we choose to not do this with the young & mature men in our lives. When we raise our boys to fight, not accept diversity, to be macho & tease those that aren't, and not learn how to hug, have emotions, and work through them safely and how to find healing ~ THAT is the issue i see that is the biggest disservice we extend and act ou...
Once again as parents and community members we are called upon to "know they neighbour" engage in real face to face, get-to-know-you connections.
I always go back to how could we avoid these tragedies and I often am struck at how easily we miss the part we play in all the children's lives we come in contact with. How are we teaching our young? How are we nurturing them, or NOT nurturing them? Perhaps this young man experienced a multitude of daily of childhood traumas of his own, how was he counselled to heal from them? Where did this young man get passed over and how could we choose to not do this with the young & mature men in our lives. When we raise our boys to fight, not accept diversity, to be macho & tease those that aren't, and not learn how to hug, have emotions, and work through them safely and how to find healing ~ THAT is the issue i see that is the biggest disservice we extend and act ou...
t for our boys and men on a daily basis and in our homes.
May we all make better choices in the raising of our children of all genders and may we be wiser to take the risk to reach out and ASK the questions, Check-in with people in our community and families, and may we leave judgment at the door and kindness in our hearts. All stories are full of layers, most of which we may never know.
Bless the innocent that perished, challenge yourself to be the change, resist the urge to blame, and create a wave of action in your immediate circle to see these kinds of incidents cease in the most immediate kind of way.
Also to find a little inspiration amongst all this distress try visiting this beautiful blog post: (buzzfeed.com) 26 moments that restored our faith in humanity this year
May we all make better choices in the raising of our children of all genders and may we be wiser to take the risk to reach out and ASK the questions, Check-in with people in our community and families, and may we leave judgment at the door and kindness in our hearts. All stories are full of layers, most of which we may never know.
Bless the innocent that perished, challenge yourself to be the change, resist the urge to blame, and create a wave of action in your immediate circle to see these kinds of incidents cease in the most immediate kind of way.
Also to find a little inspiration amongst all this distress try visiting this beautiful blog post: (buzzfeed.com) 26 moments that restored our faith in humanity this year
Saturday, 7 July 2012
6 months? no way!
So muuuch to say and WAY to long between posts. Conjuring up some goodness in the following few days ~ Stay tuned lovahs xo ♥ ~ anything new with you? spill the deets!
Friday, 13 January 2012
If you died tomorrow, would you have any regrets?
Palliative care nurse reveals top 5 "deathbed" regrets
by Sarah Robinson
According to this anonymous nurse, we all share common sentiments at the end of life.
Death has been called the ultimate equalizer. Money, societal standing and physical appearance become irrelevant in death. But that's not the only way we become one on our deathbeds, "People grow a lot when faced with their own mortality," The nurse explained that the post stemmed from experience with patients in the last weeks of their lives. "When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again."
Here are the most common five regrets, according to the nurse:
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
"This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made."
2. I wish I didn't work so hard.
"This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence."
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
"Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result."
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
"Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying."
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
"This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying."
But it wasn't all sad recollections for the patients. The nurse also said that all of her patients eventually came to terms with the life they had lived and experienced acceptance.
"Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them."
by Sarah Robinson
According to this anonymous nurse, we all share common sentiments at the end of life.
Death has been called the ultimate equalizer. Money, societal standing and physical appearance become irrelevant in death. But that's not the only way we become one on our deathbeds, "People grow a lot when faced with their own mortality," The nurse explained that the post stemmed from experience with patients in the last weeks of their lives. "When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again."
Here are the most common five regrets, according to the nurse:
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
"This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made."
2. I wish I didn't work so hard.
"This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence."
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
"Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result."
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
"Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying."
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
"This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying."
But it wasn't all sad recollections for the patients. The nurse also said that all of her patients eventually came to terms with the life they had lived and experienced acceptance.
"Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them."
If you died tomorrow, would you have any regrets?
Wednesday, 14 December 2011
Giving Gifts that Give BACK :)
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Some gifts can't be found on any store shelves, and these are often the gifts that mean the most. Give a special kind of gift to your loved ones this year that will also support and empower a family in need. A Red Door Gift to Empower is a meaningful way to show someone that you care about them, and about making a vital difference in your community.
There are over 20 different gifts to choose from and each gift includes an e-card or paper greeting card that you can personalize with a special holiday message.
Give a gift that will make a lasting impact for a family this holiday.
The Red Door Family Shelter provides emergency shelter, support services and outreach to over 500 families in the Greater Toronto Area every year.
Thank you for receiving Red Door's communications by email. Sending email communications eliminates printing and mailing costs and allows us to forward more money to programs and services. If you no longer wish to receive updates by email, you may unsubscribe below.
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Give a gift that gives back
Some gifts can't be found on any store shelves, and these are often the gifts that mean the most. Give a special kind of gift to your loved ones this year that will also support and empower a family in need. A Red Door Gift to Empower is a meaningful way to show someone that you care about them, and about making a vital difference in your community.
There are over 20 different gifts to choose from and each gift includes an e-card or paper greeting card that you can personalize with a special holiday message.
Give a gift that will make a lasting impact for a family this holiday.
The Red Door Family Shelter provides emergency shelter, support services and outreach to over 500 families in the Greater Toronto Area every year.
Thank you for receiving Red Door's communications by email. Sending email communications eliminates printing and mailing costs and allows us to forward more money to programs and services. If you no longer wish to receive updates by email, you may unsubscribe below.
Charitable Registration Number: 11930 3287 RR0001
416-915-5671 | Donor Policy | Go to reddoorshelter.ca
Friday, 2 December 2011
Charity Shelter Needs Drive, Dec 9th, 2011 9am-12 noon
Charity Shelter Needs Drive, Dec 9th, 2011 9am-12 noon
Bring us your items ~ donations direct to local Women & Youth Shelters
Bring us your items ~ donations direct to local Women & Youth Shelters
Sunday, 13 November 2011
Parent's (and all adults!) The world needs your kid! ♥
♥ Speakin' my language :) ~ I am in awe and love with these organizations & the keilburger boys ~ go MetoWE http://www.metowe.com/ , go FreetheChildren http://www.freethechildren.com/ !!
Craig and Marc Kielburger on CBC's The Hour
Craig Kielburger on "The World Needs Your Kid"
Craig and Marc Kielburger on CBC's The Hour
Craig Kielburger on "The World Needs Your Kid"
Tuesday, 8 November 2011
Can men and women ever find equity? YOU can be the change!
It is unfathomable that this is still happening at all levels, how women are treated in this society and how men & boys are conditioned by families (including other women), spouses, workplaces, community affiliations and schools ~ in order to make change, we have to start with the roots. How we raise our boys and how we hold men accountable in our lives and communities is so important in the social transformation of this epidemic treatment of women in the workplace and society.
Click here for the MSN video on this report: RCMP harassment allegations
By CBC News, cbc.ca, Updated: November 7, 2011 10:44 PM
CBC News has learned that one of B.C.'s highest profile Mounties says she's suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder after years of sexual harassment.
Cpl. Catherine Galliford was the face of the B.C. RCMP for years. During her tenure as the RCMP's spokesperson, Galliford announced the arrest of Robert William Pickton and revealed charges had been laid in the Air India bombing.
But in an internal RCMP complaint, Galliford makes serious allegations about misconduct inside the RCMP. She shared the complaint with CBC News and spoke with reporter Natalie Clancy about her claims.
"Everything that came out of his [a supervisor's] mouth was sexual," Galliford said. "If I had a dime for every time one of my bosses asked me to sit on his knee, I'd be on a yacht in the Bahamas right now."
Galliford says she faced constant sexual advances from several senior officers from the moment she graduated from the RCMP Academy in 1991.
He 'pulled out an appendage'
She outlines years of harassment in a 115-page internal complaint that the RCMP has yet to respond to, including allegations a supervisor on the Missing Women's Task Force lied to colleagues when he said they were intimate and that he even exposed himself to her.
"He said, 'I have something to show you' ... and pulled out an appendage. He wanted to show me his mole because he wanted to know if I thought it was cute," she said.
"I said, 'Let's go back to the office. We're late. Put it back in your pants.'"
According to Galliford, a supervisor on the Air India Task Force was even more direct.
"One of my bosses kept trying to be intimate with me throughout my time on Air India and kept on taking me on the road trying to have sex with me," she said.
"We don't have any new information to share with the Air India families right now, so why are we going on this trip? And no one said anything, but it was because he wanted to give the perception that we were a couple."
'I completely broke'
Galliford says the command and control structure at the RCMP means Mounties are instructed to do as they're told, or risk getting reprimanded.
"If they can't screw you, they are going to screw you over. And that's what it became like and so I started to normalize the harassment because I didn't know what else to do," she said.
"It just got to the point that after I had about 16 years of service, I broke. I completely broke."
In 2007, Galliford joined the ranks of 225 B.C. Mounties who are currently off duty on sick leave.
"I've been off work for four years now and I have been diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder, agoraphobia and chemical dependency on occasion," Galliford said.
"I was drinking too much to try to bring myself down. I'm not ashamed of that, by the way, because it's like — walk a mile in my shoes."
Now, the woman who once confidently faced hundreds of reporters is afraid to leave her home.
'Culture of fear'
Mike Webster, a consulting police psychologist in private practice, believes Galliford's deteriorating health has little to do with the murder files she worked on, and is directly linked to the harassment she faced from colleagues on the job.
"I don't think there's a female in the outfit who hasn't been approached sexually," Webster said.
"The way her employer handled it afterwards is likely to have had a greater effect on her present mental state than what she went through initially."
Webster says Galliford's allegations come as no surprise.
"Senior executives for decades have been accountable to no one and they've created a toxic work environment, high levels of employee stress and a culture of fear," Webster said.
"It's causing a tremendous effect on the morale of the RCMP, so the grievance process doesn't help them at all. What are they going to do? They turn to ODS, off duty sick ... the RCMP membership calls it 'off duty mad.'"
In a statement to CBC News, the RCMP said harassment of any kind is not tolerated. The force also said there have been eight complaints of harassment in B.C. so far this year.
The RCMP says of the 225 officers in B.C. currently off duty sick, 48 are off duty because of workplace conflict and harassment. There are more than 6,000 Mounties working in B.C.
Galliford says she plans to file a lawsuit against the RCMP.
With files from the CBC's Natalie Clancy
Which specific changes will you be a part of in this lifetime to make an impact with the imbalance between men & women?
Click here for the MSN video on this report: RCMP harassment allegations
By CBC News, cbc.ca, Updated: November 7, 2011 10:44 PM
CBC News has learned that one of B.C.'s highest profile Mounties says she's suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder after years of sexual harassment.
Cpl. Catherine Galliford was the face of the B.C. RCMP for years. During her tenure as the RCMP's spokesperson, Galliford announced the arrest of Robert William Pickton and revealed charges had been laid in the Air India bombing.
But in an internal RCMP complaint, Galliford makes serious allegations about misconduct inside the RCMP. She shared the complaint with CBC News and spoke with reporter Natalie Clancy about her claims.
"Everything that came out of his [a supervisor's] mouth was sexual," Galliford said. "If I had a dime for every time one of my bosses asked me to sit on his knee, I'd be on a yacht in the Bahamas right now."
Galliford says she faced constant sexual advances from several senior officers from the moment she graduated from the RCMP Academy in 1991.
He 'pulled out an appendage'
She outlines years of harassment in a 115-page internal complaint that the RCMP has yet to respond to, including allegations a supervisor on the Missing Women's Task Force lied to colleagues when he said they were intimate and that he even exposed himself to her.
"He said, 'I have something to show you' ... and pulled out an appendage. He wanted to show me his mole because he wanted to know if I thought it was cute," she said.
"I said, 'Let's go back to the office. We're late. Put it back in your pants.'"
According to Galliford, a supervisor on the Air India Task Force was even more direct.
"One of my bosses kept trying to be intimate with me throughout my time on Air India and kept on taking me on the road trying to have sex with me," she said.
"We don't have any new information to share with the Air India families right now, so why are we going on this trip? And no one said anything, but it was because he wanted to give the perception that we were a couple."
'I completely broke'
Galliford says the command and control structure at the RCMP means Mounties are instructed to do as they're told, or risk getting reprimanded.
"If they can't screw you, they are going to screw you over. And that's what it became like and so I started to normalize the harassment because I didn't know what else to do," she said.
"It just got to the point that after I had about 16 years of service, I broke. I completely broke."
In 2007, Galliford joined the ranks of 225 B.C. Mounties who are currently off duty on sick leave.
"I've been off work for four years now and I have been diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder, agoraphobia and chemical dependency on occasion," Galliford said.
"I was drinking too much to try to bring myself down. I'm not ashamed of that, by the way, because it's like — walk a mile in my shoes."
Now, the woman who once confidently faced hundreds of reporters is afraid to leave her home.
'Culture of fear'
Mike Webster, a consulting police psychologist in private practice, believes Galliford's deteriorating health has little to do with the murder files she worked on, and is directly linked to the harassment she faced from colleagues on the job.
"I don't think there's a female in the outfit who hasn't been approached sexually," Webster said.
"The way her employer handled it afterwards is likely to have had a greater effect on her present mental state than what she went through initially."
Webster says Galliford's allegations come as no surprise.
"Senior executives for decades have been accountable to no one and they've created a toxic work environment, high levels of employee stress and a culture of fear," Webster said.
"It's causing a tremendous effect on the morale of the RCMP, so the grievance process doesn't help them at all. What are they going to do? They turn to ODS, off duty sick ... the RCMP membership calls it 'off duty mad.'"
In a statement to CBC News, the RCMP said harassment of any kind is not tolerated. The force also said there have been eight complaints of harassment in B.C. so far this year.
The RCMP says of the 225 officers in B.C. currently off duty sick, 48 are off duty because of workplace conflict and harassment. There are more than 6,000 Mounties working in B.C.
Galliford says she plans to file a lawsuit against the RCMP.
With files from the CBC's Natalie Clancy
Sunday, 14 August 2011
Today is yours, mine, ours ♥ Live IT!
What I've been feeling all August & what I need for this week ♥
So blessed to have been given the gift of motherhood and all the blessings in addition to that. #livinghealthy and loving strong without conditions in everything I do. It's been a miracle summer thus far, and I'm looking forward to the rest of the year and all it has to offer. :D
Here's my little bit of energy rubbing off on you right now (if you need it!), go on take it ;) Hope you all have THE BEST week this week,... GO GET EM'! ! ! ! Show us your constant flow of radically compassionate ethics ~ We all see you shining, now matter how small you think it is,.. JUST DO IT - "it" MATTERS ♥
hugs n' highfives dear readers xo luv always, vp.
♥
Tuesday, 12 July 2011
♥ Marvellous Mondays!
Make your monday marvellous! ;) Have a great week peeps! xo
Thanks for stopping by to start your week off on the right path dear readers, I appreciate you!!!
♥ vp.
Thanks for stopping by to start your week off on the right path dear readers, I appreciate you!!!
♥ vp.
Lessons for Life, Parents, Children, Community, Law Enforcement
If u haven't had the chance to see this interview, pls do. There are many lesson's in here for parents, children and our communities in general.
Always remember the little details in life really do count for the biggest rewards, positive or negative.
Today may we all continue to understand t.i.m.e and human contact = far more than $ or possessions at any point, no matter what any other means tend to say or do.
Big hugs to you and yours this evening, sleep tight, love genuinely, freely give back to your communities and regularly share peacefulness wherever you may roam.
xo ♥ vp.
Always remember the little details in life really do count for the biggest rewards, positive or negative.
Today may we all continue to understand t.i.m.e and human contact = far more than $ or possessions at any point, no matter what any other means tend to say or do.
Big hugs to you and yours this evening, sleep tight, love genuinely, freely give back to your communities and regularly share peacefulness wherever you may roam.
xo ♥ vp.
Sunday, 10 July 2011
Snazzy Sundays xo
Here's a little something to kick start your Sunday the way it was meant to be ;)
Enjoy your "picnics, bike rides, yoga/pilates class, brunch with friends, loverley lazy sleep-in morning,..." plans whatever you get up to & have the best end or begining to this following fabulous week!
love you all dear readers ~ cuddles, snuggles & sunday smoochies -mwah!
Be bright, Be light, Be good - to yourself & others - watch your world shift ;)
♥ vp
Enjoy your "picnics, bike rides, yoga/pilates class, brunch with friends, loverley lazy sleep-in morning,..." plans whatever you get up to & have the best end or begining to this following fabulous week!
love you all dear readers ~ cuddles, snuggles & sunday smoochies -mwah!
Be bright, Be light, Be good - to yourself & others - watch your world shift ;)
♥ vp
Saturday, 9 July 2011
Happy Saturday! :D
Waky Wakey my little party animals ;) It's a brand new day in a fresh warm weekend with lots of mischief to be had and adventures to explore, get out there & have fun!
Shake!, Move!, Show us your powerful self today! Be uninhibited, let loose, be grand, be glittery, be GREAT! luv ya dear readers ;D Have fun out there today!!!!!
♥ vp xox
P.S. added bonus, take note of our "Canadian So-You-Think-You-Can-Dance" Champ (2010) "Amanda Cleghorn" in the (#1) Cascada video ~ Dancer in the brown leather pants, blue armbands, bikini top ~ lots of "airtime" right??!! Way to represent SYTYCDC A.C. :D
Shake!, Move!, Show us your powerful self today! Be uninhibited, let loose, be grand, be glittery, be GREAT! luv ya dear readers ;D Have fun out there today!!!!!
♥ vp xox
P.S. added bonus, take note of our "Canadian So-You-Think-You-Can-Dance" Champ (2010) "Amanda Cleghorn" in the (#1) Cascada video ~ Dancer in the brown leather pants, blue armbands, bikini top ~ lots of "airtime" right??!! Way to represent SYTYCDC A.C. :D
Friday, 11 March 2011
SCORCHING hot!
The seriously delicious Adam Levine showing off his delectable prowess once again.
You will find the best scenes in the first and last mins, talk about a man who knows what to do with his hands. *bet you can't stop biting your lip through this one ladies and some juicy stuff in there for the gents too ;) xo, you're welcome!
You will find the best scenes in the first and last mins, talk about a man who knows what to do with his hands. *bet you can't stop biting your lip through this one ladies and some juicy stuff in there for the gents too ;) xo, you're welcome!
Saturday, 16 October 2010
"Ideas worth spreading" !
This is purely fantastic, and things us parents have known since the birth of our children. We notice how children learn and grow so much better without the constant influx of institutional teaching. We as their parents, friends, loved ones are the best most qualified teachers and influences on these children and community members we know and love. Not setting limits on what we can teach, show, and introduce to our children, as their learning capabilities far outweigh what we actually "think" they can absorb or handle. :)
Take a look at this engaging TEDtalk, hope it inspires you to do some great things in your home, community and the like. ENJOY!
Take a look at this engaging TEDtalk, hope it inspires you to do some great things in your home, community and the like. ENJOY!
Tuesday, 12 October 2010
Cee-Lo Green ~ Hilarious music!
Shake it, shake it baby on your Tuesday after Turkey ;) Hope you all had a wonderful weekend dear readers. Here's some hilarious fun, toe-tappin' music to get your short week off to a great start!
Now try wiping THAT smile off your face today ;D Have fun out there everyone!
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Here's the Official Music Video, but I like the lyrics one best! ;)
Friday, 8 October 2010
Wednesday, 29 September 2010
a little tidbit to get you through
Think about it, a simple gesture of kindness can make a difference in your day, no matter how small the act. Take some time today to promote the power of kindness in your work place or school. Not only does it make life more enjoyable, it is also good for you. ♥
If you need a jolt, or some tips to get you started or inspired, try this great blog here: Random Acts of Kindness Blog
Monday, 20 September 2010
Monday morning moves ;) Shake it-Shake it Babbee', OWw!
GoOOood Monday Mornin' to ya dear readers ♥ crank-it up sweethearts, start your week with a glorious jolt! xo. Have a hoppin' and totally successful 7 days, practice makes it worth it, Go Get Em'! Whooot Whoot!
until next time,
love n' light friends
"Put a little o' that Mayer Hawthorne pillow talk in your cup, and drink it up... " ♥
and if that one didn't "do" it for ya, try this one ;)
and if that one didn't "do" it for ya, try this one ;)
until next time,
love n' light friends
Tuesday, 14 September 2010
BE the Change!
Let's be the change people. I've rallied and donated to this cause many times before and it's value stands the test of time. May we all be so lucky to never have to feel what it's like to be without a home or our belongings ~ May we also know just exactly what it means to be a "family" in whatever form that takes. Take some pics of items that you know are in good condition but that you just aren't using anymore - not old dilapidated items, think of what YOU would want if you and your children were suddenly put in a position where you had absolutely nothing and how it would make you feel if someone took the time to give you something that was in good condition or brand new and useful?.
Donate in person, monetarily or with goods ~ Get online post some yard sale items ~ or pull out those change banks and have the pleasure of cementing your community with love and kindness for the most worthy real-life every day cause you could get your hands on.
And if you are one of those in need yourself right now - please call them, or a friend you know who cares enough about you to support you positively, and if that happens to be me...I'll be waiting sweet friend, I've been there too, and I love you through and through no matter what you're going through. Reach out, it's the best thing I've done and it' will be the best thing you will do, for yourself and your family.
As always, ♥ all the best dear readers, may this posting find you well xo
Donate in person, monetarily or with goods ~ Get online post some yard sale items ~ or pull out those change banks and have the pleasure of cementing your community with love and kindness for the most worthy real-life every day cause you could get your hands on.
And if you are one of those in need yourself right now - please call them, or a friend you know who cares enough about you to support you positively, and if that happens to be me...I'll be waiting sweet friend, I've been there too, and I love you through and through no matter what you're going through. Reach out, it's the best thing I've done and it' will be the best thing you will do, for yourself and your family.
As always, ♥ all the best dear readers, may this posting find you well xo
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A Virtual Yard Sale for the Red Door
Shop, or sell your items and services in benefit of the Red Door
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We've partnered with Well of Change.org to bring you another way to help support the Red Door - by selling your items or services online on our behalf!
To kick things off, we are hosting a virtual yard sale! Post your items on Well of Change.org and the proceeds of each sale go to the Red Door. It's that simple.
You can post ANY new or gently used items such as DVDs, books, furniture, electronics, bikes, tools, sports gear, appliances, fitness equipment and more. Simply take a picture of your item, and post it HERE!
OR, you can donate your services! From langauge lessons, fitness training, carpentry, to doing taxes, whatever your skills are you can post them for hire HERE!
It's that easy to support us!
For all you treasure hunters, be sure to go shopping on our online thrift store at www.WellofChange.org/reddoorshelter
For more information visit wellofchange.org
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Saturday, 11 September 2010
In Memoriam September 11th, 2001.
9/11/01, a day I will never forget. It was a horrifying radical tragedy and watching it unfold before my very eyes and ears marked me for life. (what's your story? do you remember what you were doing then? I do. clearly etched.)
Hug and keep close your friends, children, family and loved communities tonight. Celebrate your bonds and love for each other and see the value in our gathered society as we live peacefully, whereas worn-torn countries experience our "9/11" on a daily, weekly, monthly basis. How terrifying is that?!!
Gratitude for my birth-right as a Canadian is steadfast and I take stock in thank-you's daily for the gracious simplicities life has offered to me (speech, sight, breath, fresh water, choice, opportunity) as well as my greatest treasures (my children, my health, my family of friends). Lest we forget and may we learn and grow from these experiences, never to repeat again. Think big, think small, tiny and enormous despicable events are happening right next door to us, or within our close knit groups. May you always be the sort who speaks out, speaks up and provides direction and light to the source of healing, change and justice to these situations. No task is too big or too small for us to get involved in, random human kindness is the path to our communities growing and thriving. Be the solution, be the change, witness enormous human and earthly benefit. Lock your mind-set on it's course towards peace, love, generosity and kindness ~ watch yourself and everyone around you ... change.
xo warmth and friendship to you all, dear readers.
Goodnight, and take care of each other xo
May we never sweep these disturbing events under the rug nor forget the senseless loss of so many loved ones & the decisions of absent minded leader(s) that lead to its implementation in the first place. May we all make informed choices for our world and community leaders, and trust our instincts in our everyday journey's.
Hug and keep close your friends, children, family and loved communities tonight. Celebrate your bonds and love for each other and see the value in our gathered society as we live peacefully, whereas worn-torn countries experience our "9/11" on a daily, weekly, monthly basis. How terrifying is that?!!
Gratitude for my birth-right as a Canadian is steadfast and I take stock in thank-you's daily for the gracious simplicities life has offered to me (speech, sight, breath, fresh water, choice, opportunity) as well as my greatest treasures (my children, my health, my family of friends). Lest we forget and may we learn and grow from these experiences, never to repeat again. Think big, think small, tiny and enormous despicable events are happening right next door to us, or within our close knit groups. May you always be the sort who speaks out, speaks up and provides direction and light to the source of healing, change and justice to these situations. No task is too big or too small for us to get involved in, random human kindness is the path to our communities growing and thriving. Be the solution, be the change, witness enormous human and earthly benefit. Lock your mind-set on it's course towards peace, love, generosity and kindness ~ watch yourself and everyone around you ... change.
xo warmth and friendship to you all, dear readers.
Goodnight, and take care of each other xo
Below an informative sensitive documentary on the reality of the moment
beyond the glorified "heroes story"
beyond the glorified "heroes story"
Real life account only yards away from the trade centre of the 2nd plane hitting and the buildings collapsing - this is what I remember most seeing it live, but a country away, although not that far. I was in shock thinking I was watching a movie, people telling me this was happening on the radio, I was still in disbelief. Utterly Shocking.
Tuesday, 7 September 2010
bye-bye beautiful summer, hello crisp fresh fall!
Can it really be? Labour Day weekend is but few hours to completion.
Summer vacation is official full-stop, and a brand new school year is upon us again, wow.
This is a milestone year in many ways for my little family (2010 year of the tiger babby, hollah!), as many old doors will close forever, big shiny glittering new ones are presenting and opening themselves to us in droves! yea, us :)
My sweet "little-big" boy is on the cusp of his 8th birthday and begining his fifth year (JK/SK/grd1/grd2) of school life embarking into a magnificent grade 3! ! ! WHOAH, now that makes me feel aged, like a big wheel of cheese thank you very much. We had a minor summer bsmnt flood a few weeks back that forced me to go through some very old boxes of pictures and documents to save them from the wreckage and transfer to higher drier boxes etc. I inevitably had to peek through the contents finding several unique memories, and some pics of my very healthy bouncy baby boy. There he and I were, "little-big" not more than 6mths old chubbalicious cheeks pressed to mine, blue sky bobbles for eyes and a one track milk mind. These are moments I will never forget regardless of the picture and none to ever be repeated again. This is one of the milestones we cross...
My ray of sunshine, my vibrant ever-present-in-the-moment cherub of a little girl gets her wings and enters the school system as a bright eyed JK this September. Another first, another last. "Sunshine" has been pulling on my shirttails ALL summer "When will we go to school momma?, Is today the day before the day I start kindergarten?, How many more days till I go to school momma?!" She is thrilled, so am I, "sunshine" is more than ready for this milestone. She's been following her big brother around for what seems like forever mimicking his every move and wanting to be as big, brave, smart and bold as she thinks he is. "little-big" was not so keen on starting JK back in the day, as he wasn't quite 4 then and has a more skeptical steady-footed personality. "sunshine" on the other hand, ... well I think you get the picture ;) Night and Day and the most beautiful combinations of children I could have ever been blessed with; I often thank Mother Nature and the Baby-Spirit-Fairies for having "little-big" and "sunshine" pick me to be their mother, how lucky am I xo.
So tomorrow, the first day of many firsts, first day of school, first new friends, first fresh pencil, desk arrangement, class assignment, new teachers. It's all very exciting I always loved the first 4 months of school, from now until the Christmas break, I got bored very quickly after that every year.
This year will also mark the final break in the "baby-years" as I have diligently worked in the home raising these beautiful radiant beings since 2002! I have no desire to go back nor have any more children and it will be the first time both of the kids will be in school. There's no turning back now for them either - it's a giant leap from the nest, apart from when they are old enough and desire to strike out into the world with their own apartment etc. I've marvelled at all the changes in "little-big" as he's gone from kindergarten to grade 3, he has his own little life I know not much about in the 7 hours he is on school grounds, with little snippets creeping out now and then it's really all his own little world while over there. Now "sunshine" will begin hers too, siiiiggghhh, amazing.
With this brings glitter and gold for my new adventurous life. No longer will I be held indoors for naptimes, feeding schedules, diaper changing, potty training and stroller life. I am a little nostalgic on the memories (seriously, only a tiny bit), but not so much that it deters me from what wonderful surprises I have in store for my new life now!! I have plans to go back to school and start a new career, I have health goals that I am truuuuly (more than you can imagine!!) looking forward to seeing the results of, and some precious down-time from the consistent personal pressure I lay on myself for perfectly placing the best sets of values, culture and well-roundness into my children.
I am looking forward to getting the well-deserved balance back to my life that no longer requires 98% of my world ~palms in~ to mothering. Although parenting never rests, it has become a different kind of parenting, steady and calm, the shores and waves are wet with experience and my footprints are long and sure. I now see 60% parenting = a mom, 40% = me, the woman, the fun, carefree, free-spirited, sparkling, gem; who has boundless ideas, goals, dreams, challenges, bubbly energy and is unstoppable when she follows her heart and instincts, who also adores fashion, the arts, adventure and travel! I am SOoo looking forward to welcoming her back into my world I am just hugging and squeezing her soo tight, Welcome home you, beyond thrilled to have you back, if you ever have to leave again please don't make it the 10 year nap again, I couldn't stand it! :)
Clearly I have a lot, A LOT, of love for these parts of me that were hibernating for good reason(s). Join me in celebrating this new spirit awaking won't you? It is afterall a new school year - like new years to me (as my birthday falls so close to the actual new years, it never holds the same value for me as it does to some others). September has always been a re-birth month for me, October amazing (thanksgiving and halloween, helllloooo!!!) November the first snow appears and the romance begins to flow, and December a straight shooter to complete the best months of the year.
May your Autumn/Fall (or Crisp Fresh New Year) whichever you call it ~ be the best yet, and may you find yourself re-energizing with the changing leaves, new harvests and heck why not get yourself a new pencil set and backpack too! ;)
♥ all the best dear readers xo
~and now a little musical interlude to send you on your way to celebrating, some smooth stylings from my mister man Mayer Hawthorne (& the county) song: "the ills" ~ you're welcome. xx
Summer vacation is official full-stop, and a brand new school year is upon us again, wow.
This is a milestone year in many ways for my little family (2010 year of the tiger babby, hollah!), as many old doors will close forever, big shiny glittering new ones are presenting and opening themselves to us in droves! yea, us :)
My sweet "little-big" boy is on the cusp of his 8th birthday and begining his fifth year (JK/SK/grd1/grd2) of school life embarking into a magnificent grade 3! ! ! WHOAH, now that makes me feel aged, like a big wheel of cheese thank you very much. We had a minor summer bsmnt flood a few weeks back that forced me to go through some very old boxes of pictures and documents to save them from the wreckage and transfer to higher drier boxes etc. I inevitably had to peek through the contents finding several unique memories, and some pics of my very healthy bouncy baby boy. There he and I were, "little-big" not more than 6mths old chubbalicious cheeks pressed to mine, blue sky bobbles for eyes and a one track milk mind. These are moments I will never forget regardless of the picture and none to ever be repeated again. This is one of the milestones we cross...
My ray of sunshine, my vibrant ever-present-in-the-moment cherub of a little girl gets her wings and enters the school system as a bright eyed JK this September. Another first, another last. "Sunshine" has been pulling on my shirttails ALL summer "When will we go to school momma?, Is today the day before the day I start kindergarten?, How many more days till I go to school momma?!" She is thrilled, so am I, "sunshine" is more than ready for this milestone. She's been following her big brother around for what seems like forever mimicking his every move and wanting to be as big, brave, smart and bold as she thinks he is. "little-big" was not so keen on starting JK back in the day, as he wasn't quite 4 then and has a more skeptical steady-footed personality. "sunshine" on the other hand, ... well I think you get the picture ;) Night and Day and the most beautiful combinations of children I could have ever been blessed with; I often thank Mother Nature and the Baby-Spirit-Fairies for having "little-big" and "sunshine" pick me to be their mother, how lucky am I xo.
So tomorrow, the first day of many firsts, first day of school, first new friends, first fresh pencil, desk arrangement, class assignment, new teachers. It's all very exciting I always loved the first 4 months of school, from now until the Christmas break, I got bored very quickly after that every year.
This year will also mark the final break in the "baby-years" as I have diligently worked in the home raising these beautiful radiant beings since 2002! I have no desire to go back nor have any more children and it will be the first time both of the kids will be in school. There's no turning back now for them either - it's a giant leap from the nest, apart from when they are old enough and desire to strike out into the world with their own apartment etc. I've marvelled at all the changes in "little-big" as he's gone from kindergarten to grade 3, he has his own little life I know not much about in the 7 hours he is on school grounds, with little snippets creeping out now and then it's really all his own little world while over there. Now "sunshine" will begin hers too, siiiiggghhh, amazing.
With this brings glitter and gold for my new adventurous life. No longer will I be held indoors for naptimes, feeding schedules, diaper changing, potty training and stroller life. I am a little nostalgic on the memories (seriously, only a tiny bit), but not so much that it deters me from what wonderful surprises I have in store for my new life now!! I have plans to go back to school and start a new career, I have health goals that I am truuuuly (more than you can imagine!!) looking forward to seeing the results of, and some precious down-time from the consistent personal pressure I lay on myself for perfectly placing the best sets of values, culture and well-roundness into my children.
I am looking forward to getting the well-deserved balance back to my life that no longer requires 98% of my world ~palms in~ to mothering. Although parenting never rests, it has become a different kind of parenting, steady and calm, the shores and waves are wet with experience and my footprints are long and sure. I now see 60% parenting = a mom, 40% = me, the woman, the fun, carefree, free-spirited, sparkling, gem; who has boundless ideas, goals, dreams, challenges, bubbly energy and is unstoppable when she follows her heart and instincts, who also adores fashion, the arts, adventure and travel! I am SOoo looking forward to welcoming her back into my world I am just hugging and squeezing her soo tight, Welcome home you, beyond thrilled to have you back, if you ever have to leave again please don't make it the 10 year nap again, I couldn't stand it! :)
Clearly I have a lot, A LOT, of love for these parts of me that were hibernating for good reason(s). Join me in celebrating this new spirit awaking won't you? It is afterall a new school year - like new years to me (as my birthday falls so close to the actual new years, it never holds the same value for me as it does to some others). September has always been a re-birth month for me, October amazing (thanksgiving and halloween, helllloooo!!!) November the first snow appears and the romance begins to flow, and December a straight shooter to complete the best months of the year.
May your Autumn/Fall (or Crisp Fresh New Year) whichever you call it ~ be the best yet, and may you find yourself re-energizing with the changing leaves, new harvests and heck why not get yourself a new pencil set and backpack too! ;)
♥ all the best dear readers xo
~and now a little musical interlude to send you on your way to celebrating, some smooth stylings from my mister man Mayer Hawthorne (& the county) song: "the ills" ~ you're welcome. xx
Monday, 16 August 2010
funniest utuber this week!
omg, perhaps i have an interesting sense of humour, but this just cracked me up! do yourself a monday-madness favour and get an earful with the rest of bradley's uploads on his u-tuber channel , holy crike lol get ready to scream with laughter!
Happy Monday dear readers xo ;D don't say I'm never thinking about your inner-jogging, laughter is the best way to start off the week people, get into it, muuuwwaaahh~!
Tuesday, 10 August 2010
Walk the Talk
I couldn't have found a more appropriate short film to express the statements I use in everyday life so regularly! lol. If you know me well, you'll agree that this was a perfect find ;D I am not a saint in several ways, but I do hold myself to these standards and seven powerful words in each practice of everyday.
I have been told many times by several people that I can't change the world, maybe so, but I can inspire and I hope watching and reading this elevates you to a higher degree or higher purpose for living your life in all your interactions with the several types of relationships that surround you everyday - at home, in public, at work, in your community, and - with yourself. xo
Happy Tuesday dear readers! keep in touch ;)
Walk The Talk
By: Eric Harvey and Steve Ventura
Commitment, Honesty, Accountability, Respect, Courage, Ethics, Integrity
Words,
Good Words,
Important Words
But they’re nothing more than words, unless we actually LIVE BY THEM!
Our greatest human challenge?
To behave according to our beliefs.
To do the right thing.
To practice what we preach.
To Walk the Talk
What does it take?
Commitment ~ fight the temptation to compromise your values and beliefs, it will make you stronger
Honesty ~ Build a reputation as someone who tells the truth, it will serve you well.
Accountability ~ Hold yourself to high standards and continually evaluate the image you see in the mirror, it will build your character.
Respect ~ Treat others with dignity and make sure your behaviours are respectful; it will make you a person of quality.
Courage ~ Follow your conscience instead of following the crowd, it will make you heroic.
Integrity ~ Choose rightness over ease and convenience, it will give you pride…and peace.
“I think we all have a little voice inside us that will guide us…If we shut out all the noise and clutter from our lives and listen to that voice, it will tell us the right thing to do.” ~Christopher Reeve
Believe that walking the talk matters…because it DOES!
Believe that you can make a difference…because you CAN!
You have a choice
Start each new day with a commitment to do what’s right.
Remember, with every sunrise comes new opportunities.
Today you have a clean slate upon which to record your life and your legacy.
Seek the courage to do the right thing
Decide that this will be a day in which you…
WALK the TALK
Tuesday, 27 July 2010
The Guild presents "Game On" ~ Bollywood style! ~
Never been a "gamer" myself, but love the chemistry with the hysterical actors on "The Guild". This is a spoof music video based on Zaaboo's character and his Indian roots.
Watch Seasons' 1 thru 4 at watchtheguild.com
Have a laugh, "Codex" / Felicia Day's character sings fantastic bollywood LOLOL! (the almost kiss and jumping out of the video frame is priceless!) wait till you see "vork" he makes a memorable appearance ahahahah.
Enjoy your Tuesday everyone.
Watch Seasons' 1 thru 4 at watchtheguild.com
Have a laugh, "Codex" / Felicia Day's character sings fantastic bollywood LOLOL! (the almost kiss and jumping out of the video frame is priceless!) wait till you see "vork" he makes a memorable appearance ahahahah.
Enjoy your Tuesday everyone.
Monday, 26 July 2010
Our legacies vs. "What is right" (or Poetry in Motion )
It has been absolute eons since I've dabbled in poetic prose.
Ask my brother, he'd be happy to embarrass me by telling the humorous stories of me sitting for full summery afternoons under the breezy trees with my pencils, pens and favourite notebooks. On a blanket with chipys, pink lemonade, a lazy black & white cat, the country side and my robust imagination to spark some very deep short stories and poems for the ages of 7-14. I was soooooo deeeeeep, out of my league really lol. Truthfully I thoroughly enjoyed writing, imagining, drawing and creating (i still do) with thought process' far beyond my age much to the surprise of my guardians.
Recently, I was reignited and inspired by an anonymous poem that fell upon my gaze with the Title "what is right" and this led to a personal creation of my own (seebelow). In "anonymous" 's honour I've combined just a couple of her thoughts married with mine and this is what presented itself, enjoy! an original works like no other ;)
Happy Monday dear readers xo
Hope this inspires you to create something of your own that drives you.
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My Legacy or What is Right by: VesperPeeps / A.L., inspired by anonymous
I can hear the children laughing
In the other room
My one girl and my one boy
They are happy voices
True, pure
I struggle not to think about,
What will become of their vivid innocence as time passes
Society adamantly contaminating their rich purity
With its views spewing from those fearful tainted adults
Who trapped themselves as tiny children inside large gloomy bodies
Scared and frightened, stilted, never blossoming
Years later not certain still of the “truths” they’ve been fed
Oh this mess they’re making, polluted realities
Left foolishly behind for our little ones to clean up
Are you the one? Have you stolen someones childhood?
Paving a thoughtless, negligent trail for several to trip over
We're you the one that was mercilessly drudged through madness
Helpless to wave your white flag,
Tightly bound in the millions of cross wires through the double agent
Your colours blackened, spirit whitewashed, you rose again didn't you ♥
Intelligent soul
Far fetched from those darkened bottom feeders that tried to maime you
Your legacy is now, your face is blushed with reason, you're bright
Heaping with the overflow of insistence for change
Gainful rosebud gardens, floaty images of delightful breathy peace
they are extinct, they watch in vain
Longing to gain your purity your resilience
That jar is capped no breathing holes, disintegration
Worldly festive fires ensue, wings emerge 8 feet long,
Chests open wide mimicking the precious sea
Tinted glasses gazing
Voluminous wonder presented in your exact likeness
You've stepped in, the other side is now, new and light
Dig your hands to reach the soil of your brazen adventures
Take in the scent of the ever wise, calm balanced bark, touch
Receive tenderness by silken leaves, tilt your neck. . . feel. . .the misty bloomed air
Grasp the trunk and wide healthy branches you've grown
Wonder, walk, be still
Derived from nature, steered off course
Observe how technical this mothering can be
If, I let it
Cleaning, straightening, laundry, cooking,
“Everything must be just so”…
What is right? What is right?
I choose to maintain integrity,
Featuring love, honour, family pride, protection, faith and connection
In its deepest form
Creation of moments with bubbles, giggles, picnics, fresh air, fresh thoughts
Our focus on life appreciation, togetherness, teamwork
This education not available in classrooms
or most families
We were raised to follow a conglomerate of sedated regulations
Set in motion by those fearful adults
It has not served us
Teaching, guiding, counseling, observing
I strive for perfection, I give my all
I put forth the best of what we have
All for their little hearts and minds,
Ahead of my own
In every moment
My focus is clear, my path is free of the fearful debris, I make the hard decisions, I choose outside the box, outside the mold, I will not follow, I will not cave, the pressure to assimilate is crushing at times,
But I close my eyes and breathe…
Here they are
These babies, my sweet babies
Their big warm sparkling blue eyes, they have my eyes, they have my spirit
Soft, short, chubby hands
Elbows and knees, long and lanky
My one indisputable boy and my one authentic girl
Genuine, limitless sweet hugs and kisses
Joyfully sloppy and meaningful
An extraordinary life not marred by a blueprint other than mine own
Union, bond, tie, link, join, connection, relationship
These are the vehicles to fulfillment
Our time and presence equaling the value far truer than what is preached
These are life lessons that will be passed forward
The legacy is broken! A new birth of celebrations traditions and the definition of family
We are one, we are full and we are empowered
In the midst of it all
If I must struggle to remember something
Let it be “what is right”
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Ask my brother, he'd be happy to embarrass me by telling the humorous stories of me sitting for full summery afternoons under the breezy trees with my pencils, pens and favourite notebooks. On a blanket with chipys, pink lemonade, a lazy black & white cat, the country side and my robust imagination to spark some very deep short stories and poems for the ages of 7-14. I was soooooo deeeeeep, out of my league really lol. Truthfully I thoroughly enjoyed writing, imagining, drawing and creating (i still do) with thought process' far beyond my age much to the surprise of my guardians.
Recently, I was reignited and inspired by an anonymous poem that fell upon my gaze with the Title "what is right" and this led to a personal creation of my own (seebelow). In "anonymous" 's honour I've combined just a couple of her thoughts married with mine and this is what presented itself, enjoy! an original works like no other ;)
Happy Monday dear readers xo
Hope this inspires you to create something of your own that drives you.
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My Legacy or What is Right by: VesperPeeps / A.L., inspired by anonymous
I can hear the children laughing
In the other room
My one girl and my one boy
They are happy voices
True, pure
I struggle not to think about,
What will become of their vivid innocence as time passes
Society adamantly contaminating their rich purity
With its views spewing from those fearful tainted adults
Who trapped themselves as tiny children inside large gloomy bodies
Scared and frightened, stilted, never blossoming
Years later not certain still of the “truths” they’ve been fed
Oh this mess they’re making, polluted realities
Left foolishly behind for our little ones to clean up
Are you the one? Have you stolen someones childhood?
Paving a thoughtless, negligent trail for several to trip over
We're you the one that was mercilessly drudged through madness
Helpless to wave your white flag,
Tightly bound in the millions of cross wires through the double agent
Your colours blackened, spirit whitewashed, you rose again didn't you ♥
Intelligent soul
Far fetched from those darkened bottom feeders that tried to maime you
Your legacy is now, your face is blushed with reason, you're bright
Heaping with the overflow of insistence for change
Gainful rosebud gardens, floaty images of delightful breathy peace
they are extinct, they watch in vain
Longing to gain your purity your resilience
That jar is capped no breathing holes, disintegration
Worldly festive fires ensue, wings emerge 8 feet long,
Chests open wide mimicking the precious sea
Tinted glasses gazing
Voluminous wonder presented in your exact likeness
You've stepped in, the other side is now, new and light
Dig your hands to reach the soil of your brazen adventures
Take in the scent of the ever wise, calm balanced bark, touch
Receive tenderness by silken leaves, tilt your neck. . . feel. . .the misty bloomed air
Grasp the trunk and wide healthy branches you've grown
Wonder, walk, be still
Derived from nature, steered off course
Observe how technical this mothering can be
If, I let it
Cleaning, straightening, laundry, cooking,
“Everything must be just so”…
What is right? What is right?
I choose to maintain integrity,
Featuring love, honour, family pride, protection, faith and connection
In its deepest form
Creation of moments with bubbles, giggles, picnics, fresh air, fresh thoughts
Our focus on life appreciation, togetherness, teamwork
This education not available in classrooms
or most families
We were raised to follow a conglomerate of sedated regulations
Set in motion by those fearful adults
It has not served us
Teaching, guiding, counseling, observing
I strive for perfection, I give my all
I put forth the best of what we have
All for their little hearts and minds,
Ahead of my own
In every moment
My focus is clear, my path is free of the fearful debris, I make the hard decisions, I choose outside the box, outside the mold, I will not follow, I will not cave, the pressure to assimilate is crushing at times,
But I close my eyes and breathe…
Here they are
These babies, my sweet babies
Their big warm sparkling blue eyes, they have my eyes, they have my spirit
Soft, short, chubby hands
Elbows and knees, long and lanky
My one indisputable boy and my one authentic girl
Genuine, limitless sweet hugs and kisses
Joyfully sloppy and meaningful
An extraordinary life not marred by a blueprint other than mine own
Union, bond, tie, link, join, connection, relationship
These are the vehicles to fulfillment
Our time and presence equaling the value far truer than what is preached
These are life lessons that will be passed forward
The legacy is broken! A new birth of celebrations traditions and the definition of family
We are one, we are full and we are empowered
In the midst of it all
If I must struggle to remember something
Let it be “what is right”
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Monday, 19 July 2010
invisible
It's a tough place to be, painful and scarring. I hear ya and I've been there myself, many times. It's also a great place to learn! Ask yourself, do you go out of your way to "make" yourself invisible? What changes would you have to commit to in order to maintain full visibility in those areas of your life?
I am fully aware of when those who are supposed to be the one pillar you can rely on, when those you confide in with your most trusted moments of happiness, anguish and uncertainty still can't "see" you or "hear" your place in a moment of need, it cuts to the core. Such a confusing position to be staring back at the one or few persons who you deem to know you best and they too fail to "get" you one day, it knocks the wind out of your soul. It's also gratifying to discover how your level of self-love may be directly related to how others perceive you or what kind of messages you are sending in waves to those around you. In most situations we are directly reacting to those waves with primal instinct and without need for verbal encounters.
Today I hope we all find ourselves in a moment to truly see and hear the depth of another, regardless. Acknowledge their presence without a personal agenda, engross yourself with their happiness or confliction with genuine caring interest and see past ourselves to give fully to another human being on this planet who could use our counsel, strength, kindness and camaraderie, if only for but a brief encounter (stranger or ally). Watch as our world gets smaller, our community more genuine and our encounters with people less invisible and more connected.
Happy Monday dear readers, enjoy an inspired start to your week. Let me know of any wonderful examples that come across your paths. xo, me.
Sunday, 18 July 2010
Sexy Food Therapy...
Have you seen this woman's blog? "Sexy Food Therapy" by Melissa Ramos including guest writers like the very accurate and hilarious Adam Mazerall, BRILLIANT really. I'm loving this new blog and some of it's tips, take a look for yourself you might like it too.
So in it's inspiration and my fantastic journey back-to-self as noted in June here: Girlicious! June 4th 2010 12mth+ challenge ♥ I made myself some sexy food today (see below!) and nailed it! in a BodyCombat class this morning at my local Goodlife gym with a gal pal o' mine on a similar journey. We had a kick ass time with a spunky little instructor and sweat out a weekends worth of fat in a one hour hard core class. Right now I feel revived, strong and ready to start another busy week ahead filled with heaps of opportunity that I've created for myself!
Piccy above of my fresh spinach salad with cheddar, blueberries, and almonds,
snuggled in a sweet spanish onion and poppy seed dressing
(would have added roasted or grilled chicken, carrots, celery and mushrooms if I had it)
- this is my fave sexy-healthy-comfort food ♥ -
TIP! surrounding yourself with like minded individuals has been proven to provide 80% better results (in some study, somewhere, at some time...) with whatever "demon(s)" you are trying to harness and tame. Yep, you know those mind sucking negative food nazi's & mood/dream killers disguised as family, friends or co-workers who insist they are "being supportive"... you know who they are! Not sexy, not healthy not loving. So ditch those energy vampires and bring opportunity and longevity to your fresh, crisp routines with those powerhouse cheerleaders that you know and love instead xo. A good workout buddy or even just a person you can talk to when the going gets tough is a perfect example of this.
Self love appears to be the true path to adjustment in so many of our little idiosyncrasies that infiltrate all of our varied relationships (with self, food, significant others, work, mates, future) why not make it sexy, healthy and fun?! Best wishes to any of you who are also taking on some positive changes and challenges of your own, carry on buttercups! and see below for some other wonderful support links that have inspired me along the way.
♥ to you readers on this beautiful sunny summery day xo
Ciao for now!
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YouTubers:
The Siegster (super inspiring manifesto!)
blueeyedbetty's amazing journey! (a sweet woman who has come a LONG way, check the before and after videos amazing!)
trulyjess (check out the "size healthy" video)
Words of Wisdom:
Healthy Images & Foodies:
Laughter, Relationships & BrainBuilders:
See the Sidebar "Fav blogs n' Links"
for my favourite indulgences of eye-candy in the written world, enjoy! xo
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A Canadian Gentleman
Truly the mark of a good man - Ryan Gossling
you must watch from start to finish, to completely get his natural gentleman approach,
it's godlike ~swwooon~ xxooxxxoo
and in case you didn't scroll down for the first instalment of my love for this actor, here it is again :)
and the movie that made him ~ "the notebook" ~ a must watch for men and women alike
Watch the full movie here: The notebook movie!
Other amazing love stories to watch "P.S. I love you" & "Dear John", "serendipity" & "say anything"
Enjoy Lovebugs (summer is here, and romantic fall & winter just around the corner so take a risk, show and tell that special someone, it's a short lifetime, make it worth it with a life altering passionate love)
xo ♥
you must watch from start to finish, to completely get his natural gentleman approach,
it's godlike ~swwooon~ xxooxxxoo
and in case you didn't scroll down for the first instalment of my love for this actor, here it is again :)
and the movie that made him ~ "the notebook" ~ a must watch for men and women alike
Watch the full movie here: The notebook movie!
Other amazing love stories to watch "P.S. I love you" & "Dear John", "serendipity" & "say anything"
Enjoy Lovebugs (summer is here, and romantic fall & winter just around the corner so take a risk, show and tell that special someone, it's a short lifetime, make it worth it with a life altering passionate love)
xo ♥
Tuesday, 13 July 2010
Favourite f*%#ing shows on the planet - right now.
An Ep. of HUNG:
Ray Drecker (ThomasJane), Hank Moody (DavidDuchovny), Donald Draper (JonHamm), Neal Caffrey (MattBomer)...
These are some of the great TV men in some fantastic shows right now...and yes, a curse word was necessary, as they are just that great and a notation of UMPH! was needed - thaaaaat good ladies and tons of testoterone for men alike.
Have you seen "Hung", "Californication", "Mad Men", "How to make it in America" or "White Collar" ?
This is some great TV people, get on it. If the theme song's alone don't get you well then I wash my hands of you peeps.
An Ep. of How to Make it in America:
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